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our faith journey


How to open ourselves to a
relationship with God.



Firstly, you may wonder does he want a relationship with you? Well, I will say upfront, my word he does! And as explained in the previous article, that is made clear in the Bible itself. Our God loves each one of us dearly. Actually, the Bible tells us that it does not matter what bad things we have done in the past, because he has already cleaned the slate. We really can accept, through faith, that he did that over two thousand years ago when Jesus (God incarnate) died on the cross. Hence one of Jesus’ titles is,Lamb of God”. He sacrificed his life to redeem/ pay for our wrongdoings, so that all we have to do now is concentrate on our relationship with him in the way that he offers us in the Bible.

Creating a relationship with God is pivotal in our search for belief in him and faith itself. In effect we need to engage with God ... open ourselves to him. Briefly, we connect with him just as he desires of us. And that is where we come to recognise his presence; his existence. Potentially, very clearly! The previous article, in this section of the website, titled How to believe in God” provides an overview of where and how to find that evidence of Gods existence for ourselves.


How indeed do we start with this aim in mind, i.e. beginning a relationship with God? Well, we need to apply two steps here. They are both important; both need to be applied during the process.

2.1    Understanding what we are trying to believe in

Not surprisingly, the first step involves theoretically understanding God and his potential relationship with us: who he is, what he actually expects of us, what he offers us through faith; where and how his presence can impact us; how to potentially walk through life with him.

This step of building knowledge is important, as you may guess, because it is very hard to believe in anything at all without first understanding what we are trying to believe in. In other words, searching for some fairytale god in our lives is unlikely to lead to the long lasting belief and faith that has been evident within Christianity for some 2,000 years. For a brief explanation of Christianity and our God please read Christianity explained” on this website. It should give you a head startin that required understanding. But further reading and study is necessary of course in the long term, especially in regard to the New Testament (the Jesus bits).

The outcome of your Bible studies, at this stage, will be greatly improved if you are guided by your church of choice. And, it might be tempting to try and leave going to church out of the equation. I know because I too tried to build faith and belief on my own, without the Church. And now I do say it just does not work effectively. 

2.2    How to apply faith to our lives

The all important second step begins with accepting through faith that God really is there, as defined within the Bible: loving each of us unconditionally and wanting us to enter into that relationship with him. Initially we simply just accept or suppose that he is in this world and within our lives. Imagining his existence in this way does not make him any less real, as you should subsequently find out for yourself.

In effect, we deliberately open ourselves to his presence in our lives.


Ok, so how do we develop this relationship with the Lord?

3.1    Beginning the relationship

We should begin to regularly spend time in his company, talking to him through prayer, looking for his guidance, help and wisdom in relation to our individual lives, sensing his love, and indeed being grateful that this powerful being wants a relationship with each of us. Of course, I am not saying this all happens easily for us. We are human beings after all, arent we?

And then through that relationship we should begin to deliberately engage with him in our lives. That is when it all becomes self proving, as his presence begins to become apparent to us. Two complete sections of this website, God in church and God in our lives” have been developed to guide readers when engaging with him; opening themselves to him. Now that old adage of If it looks too good to be true, then it probably is! might arise in your mind at this stage. I was a staunch atheist once, so I can understand because I felt exactly the same way myself at that time. But, I can now say with complete confidence that if you are ready to believe, then you can absolutely do so through that relationship awaiting you!

3.2    The relationship deepens

With the passing of time God desires that the relationship will further deepen. Essentially, he dearly loves each one of us, and wants us to come to actually love him back. Jesus himself gave us this directive, Love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. [Mark 12:30]. And as the relationship deepens, so the evidence of his presence becomes all the more concrete, I can assure you.

I can honestly say without doubt that his impact on you, both within your chosen fellowship of faith and your everyday life, will shore up what the Bible explains to us about the Lord that was particularly made evident through Jesus life and death.

As explained in the article, Real personal freedom” we can come to revel in the ultimate freedom flowing powerfully from sound faith. Gods grace ... beautiful grace ... becomes so very obvious through our ever deepening relationship with Jesus. He loves us without limits. Grace really does place our lives in perspective, greatly diminishing the average worries and woes that can face us in everyday life. Also see the article, Christianity explained when you are ready.


I completely understand that may all seem a tall order when you are just starting out on the path of faith. I admit I could not even contemplate how to actually love God when I took my first steps of faith. Firstly, I did come to recognise that when we get our heads around what he actually did for us through the life and death of Jesus, we are encouraged to open our hearts towards him. Although atheist websites fail to get it, I can say with confidence that recorded historical events actually support the Biblical account of events, rather than challenge them. Secondly and importantly for myself, the relationship between God and me slowly but surely kindled deeper emotions as I relaxed into it.

Of course this just travels along at a pace relative to each of us individually.

Continue to the next article, Sound faith.