A guide to intentionally building intimacy with God
through the process of prayer.
As our relationship with
God develops, and its intimacy deepens, it becomes easier to move into
advanced prayer. I
will say that the
this happens, the better,
faith itself is an outcome. And this relates directly to other areas of
life and its success (as I mentioned in the previous article, “Prayers of Request”). Indeed, this prayer
driven growth in faith also positively impacts our complete faith
journey. For a quick overview of the many other faith and belief building options, that are actually available to us, please see the article, “How to believe in God”.
power of prayer is definitely all the more
obvious in the lives of those who are willing to spend more time in the
presence of God. Do not forget that Bible or attending church either! Reading the Gospels
in particular will lead to a much better understanding of how gracious
and loving our God really is. Not the least being how he became human,
to serve us rather than be revered, then finally to die for us on the cross ... all out
of love! Again I write that secular historical records indicate that Jesus lived and died as the Bible explains.
you think the time is right, find out how to commit to Jesus as your
Lord and Saviour. If you are a beginner Christian, then it might
take time to feel comfortable coming to that position. Don’t
worry, if so, because we have a loving God who will always listen to us as we
grow in faith and commitment. But when it comes time, and you
know God is nudging
you to grow closer, do it and you will benefit in many ways I can
assure you. Fundamentally, it is about contentedness with life itself and real personal
Now mature prayer includes both praying for the needs of others and devotional prayer.
2. PRAYING FOR OTHERS IN NEED
I am saying here is there is nothing wrong with praying to get positive
outcomes for ourselves with important issues in life (as in the “Prayers of Request” article) but
bear in mind that prayer was never intended to be totally self oriented. Essentially, Christianity is never ‘just about me‘.
Praying out of concern for the plight of others, for example, ensures
one’s mind is
outward looking and not overly self-indulgent. Such behaviour is
expectation of Christianity. Praying for those less fortunate than
is one ‘sure-fired’ way to place our own problems in
perspective. There is just so much satisfaction available to us by
bringing positive changes, through solid prayer sessions, to all sorts
of life issues faced by others.
to always let those people,
who you are praying for, know what you are doing for them if at all
possible. This will ensure they know, when positive change does occur
as a result of your prayers, that they have been on the receiving end
of the Lord's loving care. In turn this will encourage them to
grow in faith.
3. THE NEED FOR DEVOTIONAL PRAYER
Also, and very importantly, God wants us to spend time with him. And
it is right to just give time to the Lord
in prayer, because no relationship should ever be based solely on
receiving; expecting all favours to come our way. Although he regularly
demonstrates his love for us
through his gifts in our lives, God definitely
desires a two-way
relationship with each of us.
That said, the idea
of devotion, adoration or worship for anything outside
ourselves really is a bit foreign to many of us these days. If we
believe the hype we are offered, we are a special and lucky
species; potentially in control of our own boundless destinies. And sure there can be periods of success,
fulfilment and happiness in our lives without God. But ah, life has a habit of eventually
‘biting us on the bottom’; proving
to us in no uncertain terms just how vulnerable we are to misfortune,
pain and suffering! I remind you that it is indeed a great idea to pay
homage to our God, the best one to provide support as we pass through
the potential ‘minefield’ that awaits us in life.
we must also remember that we humans on the whole are often just too
in matters that the Bible refers to as “worldliness”.
And although not
necessarily evil, an over interest in worldly matters can eliminate the
chance to focus on spirituality. Attending to the
life can soak up our lives completely. Modern communication methods
such as texting and emailing can be bad enough, but what about the time
drain of ever developing forms of
social media such as Facebook and Twitter adding to the dilemma? Again,
there is nothing wrong with these options of digital contact with
friends, family and society, but there has to be a balance in life and faith.
Yes, mature prayer does require self
discipline, but the rewards are waiting. Dedicated Christians always
have, and still do, regularly put time aside to just spend with God.
Substantial two-way conversations with God on our life issues
can occur during these deep sessions. The article following this one discusses “Listening to God”.
way to look at prayers
adoration/ worship is to recognise that they provide us
genuine sense of our real, not imagined,‘specialness’ in being able
to have a one-on-one
the ‘Being’ (the great
“I AM”) who enables
the universe’s every moment of existence.
4. WORKING OUR WAY INTO DEVOTIONAL PRAYER
Emotions play a big part in these mature
prayers, just as our love towards our parents is, or should be,
involved in our
communication with them.
personally find that just enjoying God’s company for a while, during most days,
inevitably provides personal revitalisation and a real sense of peace in my life.
I just open myself to his presence, as such, acknowledging him there.
As a beginner, you do this through faith, assuming him to be
there. With time, particularly as events in life gradually prove his presence there, he just becomes more and more real to you.
And I do literally ‘feel the love’
during those sessions ... another incentive for mature prayer! Yes, it
normally takes time to get to that stage in the relationship, but it
also relies on our level of commitment and trust in him, which I will
get to shortly. We cannot just conjure up the emotion of love obviously, to use in our relationship with him. So we need to work on it.
The Bible, particularly the New Testament Gospels, help by giving us insight into God’s
nature: his love of and for us. We should also look, as practising
Christians, at what he has been doing in our lives. We have only to
engage with him in life to initiateopportunities for him to apply his loving care directly to us. No, he won ’t
force his way into our lives. We have to open ourselves to him; his
love. We were born to do so! Earlier articles in this section of the
website (God in our lives) offer guidance there. So, between the Bible and our life experiences, of receiving his loving care, we can come to feel
deeper emotions about him. It thereby gets easier and easier to love
him. And we apply that growing sense of love towards him when spending
time in mature prayer, and during the complete day for that matter.
As I have indicated already, praying regularly like this does not necessarily ‘come easy’ to most of
does take discipline, time set aside etc, and we do have to continually
work at it. Prayer life is no different to anything else
we would like to succeed at. It is just that not much else can lead
to improved contentment with, and direction in, life like a closer relationship with God.
Remember, asking God for help in developing
habits of prayer will prove very useful.
Also, have a look at the “Trusting God day to day” and “Trusting God with your life” articles later in this section of the website. Those articles explain how to ‘gradually’ deepen our sense of trust in
the Lord. Firstly, this can make his presence become virtually concrete
within our everyday lives and of course within prayer. Secondly, God’s obvious caring presence, that is illuminated via our deep ongoing trust in him, really proves his love for us.
So, mature prayer works ‘hand in glove’
with that kind of deep trust in God. And wow ... I certainly know how
that would all look to an atheist. Just as I was wrong when I was one,
so they are now. Forgive me for having repeatedly pointed out my old
mistaken views throughout this website.
And of course, time spent in a fellowship of faith; within a church, will lead to all kinds of evidence of God’s presence there. The Charismatic movement, throughout the greater Christian Church, can for example offer powerful, what I would even title ‘tangible’,
evidence of his presence there. Any church though, should give us the
means to note his subtle presence as a minimum, and the means to learn
more about his grace. We should feel his love there too.
Continue to the next article, “Listening to God”.